He's just not that into you.

I was hungover all day yesterday and didn't really move from bed, my laptop was my best friend - if only we could spoon. I decided I needed to get off of it for the sake of my squinty eyes and picked up a book which came free with a mag subscription I have. It's called 'He's Just Not That Into You', you'll have heard of or seen the film.

I LOVED the film, total feel-good chick flick. I HATE the book. It's evil.

The chapters go like this; "He's just not that into you if...He doesn't call, he's not dating you, he doesn't want to see you, he doesn't want to have sex with you, etc. Upon reading a few chapters, I thought every word of it made perfect sense. It's about women being in control, never wasting their time on a man and being empowered. It's about not having any grey area, to know where you stand and not making excuse for his behaviour. It's written by a man (!) and a woman, they wrote on Sex and the City or something. It is good advice, it makes sense.

Here's an example - the "...if he's not dating you" chapter talks about that if you're just 'hanging out' then you're wasting your time because he should be shouting it from the rooftops as you're such an amazing girl and he should want to show you off and make you his exclusively. If he's making excuses up like "scared of getting hurt" , "happy with the way things are" - Yeah of course you are, you get all the things from a relationship whilst not being responsible for your feelings - then, apparently you should get out.

Hmm, yeah I'd really like the book if one of the chapters hadn't rang true. Well for the early days of my relationship. Damn it. It makes you think about the way you did things "wrong". I'm not actually going to dwell on it, it's just a book. But still....I can't help thinking.